How do men treat a classy woman?

So I am in confusion. I have been on dates and it seems that most men are intimidated by classy, well maintained women. I have been on numerous dates and it comes to my attention that men are so timid by smart, classy, independent women? Why is this? Everyone wants a date and claim they wine and dine women but most men seem not to be on that level of generosity? What happen to the dreamy, sophisticated, well mannered guys? I always had that type of dream man in my head but as I got older I found out that those dreams are such BS. I have always taken care of my self and provided for my self, I am very materialistic (spoiling my self) love vacations and shopping and just lay up and cuddle (my fav) but no one can seem to hold the attention? I would love to know where the bottom masculine professional men who are serious are? Do any of you exist anymore or is it all about taking a girl out and it’s all about the boom and on to the next? How do I find my stable keeper who can keep up with me? I love the fact that I look at my self as a queen not a princess searching for her king? I have been wondering if kings even exist anymore because all I have been seeing is princes 😩 can anyone prove me wrong?